知足者常乐

It’s been almost a week of endless (not to mention mindless) hide and seek with a virus named “iqtest.exe”. Hopefully, this blog will be the mark of my victory over it! It’s quite a smart one, with me only being able to detect it after downloading some new software. But when it was found, the war had just begun! I would chase it from the C drive to the D drive and all the way to the I drive before having it shut down my computer one second before I could delete it! Talk about the art of eluding me!

This bout of hide and seek has a certain resemblance to the game we are all too familiar with. There are only two games that all humans like to play, irregardless of our ethnicity, nationality, interests, occupation or whatever it is that sets us apart! The first game is the ever present power that keeps the world revolving – money; and the other one keeps the world from splitting apart – love. And in this case of virus-busting, I was reminded of the love game!

Personally, I have a certain habit of constantly looking out for the best deal, or rather I exercise my right to choose! Hence, it is only appropriate that I have this urge to keep searching for the right girl. I don’t define what I want in a woman, because even if I find all the features that I favor in one such woman, her one bad habit might just peeve me off so much, it simply blinds me! Hence, I look out for that feel. You know, when you think of her, your face lits up with a certain innocent joy; when you hug her, you never want to let go and could literally sleep in her arms; when you look into her eyes, you see beauty beyond description and a future together.

Just in case you’re wondering, NO, this is not a mindless post about how I’ve found the RIGHT one and how much I love her.

I used to think: why settle with one woman when there could be even better girls out there? And technically, there are better woman out there, because we are never the best in this world. We could be the richest, or most popular, whereby the results can be measured in numbers. But the best? Never, only because different people have different definitions of the best and the fact that the best cannot be measured in numbers. And again, there are other better women out there, and symmetrically, there definitely better men out there too, so go figure.

The point in this argument is this: we can never be the best person, cause someone out there will definitely be better than us. So when two people who aren’t the best come together under the umbrella called love, it is inevitable that the relationship is not the best one either, technically. Two negatives don’t make a positive, that only works in Science, and specifically with electro negativity in Physics only!

Hence, I set about thinking how to make a relationship work, to put it simply! This was what my peanut brain came up with: in love, you gotta be contented.

Stop searching for the BEST one. Heck, if she feels like the RIGHT one, Nike says it best: JUST DO IT! Grab the opportunity, or rather, grab her in this case and never let go! Let it be. Go with the flow. Just stop looking for BEST woman out there and start loving the RIGHT one in front of you.

Hence pops the question, what if I find a better woman than her? Then again, you’ll have to ask yourself this rhetoric: what if she finds a better man than you? This is going to happen eventually, but what would you want her to do? Leave you for that richer, more handsome, younger or smarter guy? Rhetorical, no? Thus, you know that you should still stay by her side, cause she is the RIGHT one.

From another POV(Point of View), as time passes, the love of a RIGHT relationship will grow. And what will tag along will be affection, trust, closeness and ultimately, a bond that takes time to build. It is with this that you will battle the temptations of a seemingly better offer, that your bond will weather through this challenge as a bridge would stand the beatings of a storm. That even if she has weaknesses and flaws, that the BETTER one has only got virtues and strengths seemingly, this love and the bond will be good enough a conviction to choose the RIGHT one over the BETTER one. After all, the RIGHT one just couldn’t go wrong, could it?

In love, don’t keep looking for the best woman. For the further we search, more blinded we shall be towards the right woman, who tends to be right in front of us most of the time. Blinded by foresight? Perhaps. In love, be contented.